It’s easy to fall into negative thinking without realising it, Juliet says. So to maintain wellbeing the trick is to practise turning negative thoughts into positive ones.
“There are a lot of things we don’t have control over as we age, so we need to cultivate a positive attitude, and to do this very consciously.”
There are two steps to this:
“This is a very good habit to develop,” Juliet says.
You are never too old to learn new things. Brain research shows that learning and doing new things – dancing, music, new languages – keeps the brain alert and is very good for our memories. See luminosity.com for brain exercises.
Our brains can keep making new pathways and trying new things helps with this, Juliet says.
“It has taken me one year to learn the 108 step Tai Chi and my memory has definitely improved.”
Juliet tells of a woman in her 70s who says her memory started coming back after she went to university to do an English literature course.
“When you first start to learn it can be quite difficult and stressful but stick with it, as it gets easier” she says.
Others things you can do to avoid “stagnation”:
Holding on to baggage as we age weighs us down mentally, Juliet says.
“Get rid of old attitudes like grudges and blaming others for things that happened in the past. It’s time to drop these and release into forgiveness.”
And get rid of the old stuff around you, too.
Definition of clutter: Anything that doesn’t make you smile when you look at it.
A precious photo of your mother that makes you smile is not clutter. However anything that feels burdensome, stresses you out or brings you down is.
Ways to weed out the clutter:
Once you start to throw out or give things away, the real treasures start to shine and you see what you truly value, Juliet says.
“This is a time to start afresh and be generative or we become musty on the inside.”
A great book on the subject she says is Clear your clutter with Feng Shui by Karen Kingston. And her own book Spirited Ageing (page 72) has helpful exercises, too.
Building intergenerational relationships is very important because if we live a long life our peers die and we can find ourselves stranded, Juliet says. These relationships keep our neurons firing, so it’s good to stay connected with young and old people alike.
Moving to an isolated spot in the country she says is not a good idea because we need access to resources and to be connected to and stimulated by a range of people.
“Love seemingly can make a medical difference “, Juliet says, quoting Daniel Goleman, author of Social Intelligence, who also says that “the more frail our condition . . . the more powerful the health impact of our relationships.”
There are at least three long-term studies proving the benefits of community connection. One from New Zealand shows older Maori connected to their marae had a higher quality of life because they have status, are needed and are serving their community.
And of spiritual relationships, Juliet says the Minnesota Nun Study by Dr David Snowdon shows the power of a loving community and shared spirituality are without any doubt vital to wellbeing and longevity.
Connecting with your passion is also a vital part of staying vibrant as we age, Juliet says.
“When you do that, it fires you up.”
She cites an American study by Dr Gene Cohen that looked at 150 older people with an average age of 80 years showing those involved in arts programmes not only stabilised their health but some also improved it, both physically and mentally.
“Connecting with your passion and creativity could mean singing, gardening, enjoying nature, art, listening to music, or giving to others,” Juliet says.
The movie Alive Inside, she says is worth watching – it shows how music can actually bring people out of dementia for a period of time.
Spirited Ageing is available from independent bookshops or from www.julietbatten.co.nz